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Testimonials
Rugh Pugh, Mother
Being a mother of the three most incredible children has been,
without question, the best years of my life. From soccer to dance
recitals, motorcycles, history fairs, broken arms, ski vacations.
Raising them in Jamul was the icing on the cake. My life changed
forever on May 20, 1995 when my son Dallas made the decision to take
his life. This was something I thought happened to dysfunctional
families in the barrio not by any stretch of the word OUR FAMILY. I
was the team mom, on the PTA, always volunteering in the schools. We
were so involved in every activity we could be in. Why would God
ever let something like this happen to us? Why did I not see any
signs. I was the Mom & and Moms see everything? I love life, always
seeing the glass totally full. I never realized that everyone did
not share the same mind-set as I, until this happened. I thought
that you could shake off anything if it was bothering you. I should
have known my son was hurting in his heart. Where was my head? I
live with this guilt everyday. Dallas had a smile that would light
anyone's heart when he walked into a room. He loved puppies, babies,
country music and his MOM. His heart was hurting and he hid it well.
I have learned so much over the past eleven years about our minds
and how powerful they are. Sometimes we have no control over our
thoughts. Suicide is something that is never talked about though.
People don't share when their hearts are hurting, or if they, too,
have had thoughts of suicide. We talk in our schools about safe sex,
but suicide is something that is not ever discussed. I have asked
hundreds of people if they ever had those thoughts when they were a
teenager, and 98% of them all said yes. I made the decision not to
go to bed and not ever get out after this happened. I said to my
family, "We have to prevent this from happening to anyone. We have
to share our story. We have to let children know that it is okay to
ask for help. "You may be having these thoughts, and that's okay,
but it is not okay to act on them. We are here to help, share with
you the journey we have been through over the past eleven years. My
daughter Leann and Son Jarrett have without question helped over
hundreds of children. We have raised over $500,000.00 in the
prevention of teen suicide, we can do more. Just to share with you
my vision: I can see a wing at the YMCA named after my son Dallas,
hundreds of phones ringing, everyone answering the calls "the Dallas
Pugh Foundation." People ask "who is Dallas Pugh?" The story is
told, he was the most incredible young man with goals, personality,
ambition and good looks. One day he was hurting very bad in his
heart and made the decision to take his life. So we are here right
now to let you know we are here to help in building self-confidence,
communication skills, athletic ability." How can we help you?" We
will be able to help children in the most positive way & letting
them know it's okay to feel bad today, because there will be a
rainbow tomorrow. I miss my Dallas so much, I will never see his
children, his wife he would of chose. There is so much we all will
miss. I promise you I will make a difference with every child I come
in contact with.
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Harold Pugh, FatherFatherhood is indescribable, it is the most rewarding gift anyone
could be given, except when God throws you a curve ball and takes
one of your most precious gifts away. Now that is indescribable! The
loss of my son Dallas has been life changing for me. I grew up here
in San Diego and knew I wanted to raise my own family here as well.
The family vacations were endless, the toys never stopped and you
could feel the love in the air. Owning my own company for over 25
years made all of these things possible. I was in the auto parts
industry and was able to have my children help me out on the
weekends or over their summer break. They loved coming to work with
Dad. It has been almost 3 years now, I have been retired and
enjoying life to the fullest. I have had the privilege of teaching
my children a lot of what they know today. Anywhere from mowing the
lawn, riding a bike, throwing a football or even changing the tire
on your car. Yep, I taught it to my daughter too. It is very
rewarding for me to enjoy all the things that I have taught them
growing up. Starting a foundation has enabled me to see that there
are so many people needing our help, especially with the decisions
the youths are faced with today. I never would have thought that
this happens to so many families. The numbers are growing and I am
here to stop it. The Dallas Pugh Foundation leans on me for
fundraising and assistance with anything that comes their way.
Travis Pugh, Brother
Dallas, Dallas, Dallas... I really don't think
that there are enough words to describe my brother Dallas. He was
always trying to impress everyone, even himself. Every time I was
put in charge to watch my younger brothers and sister, Dallas would
end up getting stitches, or at least a couple of band-aids. He was
full of great energy, and quite the charmer with the ladies, young
and not so young. He always seemed to have so much going for him.
Cute girls, tons of friends, plenty of cool things to keep him busy,
like football, golf, motorcycle riding or practicing his roping
skills on the bull that could never get away. To top it all off, he
loved his family so very much. I feel his presence everyday and miss
him dearly. He is truly an angel from above. I know that he looks
upon us smiling, seeing what we have done in his memory.
Jarrett Pugh, Brother My Brother Dallas made such an impact in not only my
life, but also in everyone's he came in contact with. He had the
body of a 15-year-old, but the heart and soul of a giant. Being
Dallas's older brother, my early years had some pretty fond
memories. We grew up in Jamul, California, with plenty of space to
run, jump, play, and get in a little trouble. My Mom knew that the
fire department took exactly 6.5 minutes to arrive at our house. If
my Mom couldn't find Dallas, there was a good chance I had left him
dangling in our tree fort in the back yard while I enjoyed his
Turkey sandwich that Mom made for both of us. From letting my little
brother chase me on dirt bikes, to pretending we were Rambo in the
woods behind our house, our childhood was anything but dull. I
watched my brother grow from a little boy I used to pick on to my
best friend and a handsome young man. We had a childhood you see in
movies and a family to share it all with. On May 20th 1995 that all
changed, I lost my little brother and best friend to suicide. That
day changed my life forever. I realized that our family Ñ along with
the support of friends, family, and others that have been touched in
a similar way Ñ can help make a difference. I am currently 30 years
of age and still wishing that all of this were a dream. I told
myself that I could not let this hold me back from life itself. I am
now on the board for the Mission Valley YMCA, and get to explore
different ways to be a positive influence in children's lives. I get
to troubleshoot with other board members that share the same passion
I do. As for work, I currently work with a real estate development
company as their Director of Acquisitions. I can't tell you how much
I enjoy my job and what I do for the company. I have fun at what I
do and best of all, I get to work with my family every day. I still
enjoy riding dirt bikes, skiing with the family, boating, Harley
rides... I guess doing some of the same things I enjoyed as a kid.
Oh, and falling asleep watching a movie with my new nephew Preston
Dallas Thompson. With my great sales skills, I will be able to raise
enough money to provide the tools needed for the youth today. The
Dallas Pugh Foundation has been a goal of mine for many years. I am
proud to say it is finally here and together we CAN make a
difference.
Leann Thompson, Sister It was about every hour I was
calling for my oldest brother to come and rescue me from Dallas.
Dallas loved to torment me. I would be playing in my room, all
alone, not bothering anyone and he would feel the need to come in
and either fart and run or mess up everything I was playing with.
Dallas and I had a love hate relationship. Being the youngest and
only girl of the family, I got blamed for everything. See, if I did
it, I wouldn't get in trouble... which meant he wouldn't get in
trouble either. After a few times, my parents caught on and realized
that I could never pull off some of these things that Dallas did.
Dallas would make the room turn the minute he walked in. He was
loved by so many. It has been almost 11 years and people still come
to us with stories of Dallas. Dallas lived only to be 15 but
accomplished more than most 50 year olds do today. He was a busy kid
and lived everyday to the fullest. I know Dallas is looking down on
us today, so proud of his family for everything we are doing for
him. The Dallas Pugh Foundation will affect so many precious lives
in a positive way.
Jason Moore, Cousin
I remember Dallas Pugh, A
good-looking kid with a smile ear to ear. Dallas had this fun loving
spirit. Along with his extra large belt buckle, Cowboy Hat and
Boots, his confidence stood out. I remember Dallas showing me these
cowboy rope tricks with his lasso and make shift wooden bull, he
made some of these tricks look so easy. From the outside looking in,
Dallas had everything going for him, loving family, friends and a
bright future ahead of him. I know if the Dallas Pugh Foundation can
save one family from losing their Dallas, that this foundation can
change the world. We all miss Dallas very much!
Nick Tyree, Friend
It all happened the night of Supercross 1993. Dallas Pugh, age 13
led the most laps of the race. It was the last lap; Dallas was in
first place getting ready for the big jump before the finish line,
oh no... Dallas's foot slipped and he was down. It looks like he
landed on his hand. The sports trainers were out there immediately
helping him out of the way. Later that night, doctors announced that
Dallas fractured his "hand" when he landed... Dallas always had a
story for everything... He did not want everyone to know he really
crashed when he was at my house riding Pee-Wee quads in our dirt
lot. Dallas was taking a turn a little too wide and ran into the
fence where he fractured his "thumb." Now that is the true story,
Dallas just wanted to impress all of the girls with his "Supercross"
story. I have to give him props, he did impress them and they had no
idea. I think that is whom I get all of my smooth lines from. Dallas
has definitely left a void in my life, if only I would have known,
behind that amazing attitude, someone was hurting. I will make sure
that The Dallas Pugh Foundation allows the youth to express their
inner thoughts by reaching out with Dallas's story. Dallas, I love
you!!!
Lisa Gawf, FriendThe Dallas Pugh Foundation and Light for
Life have made such a difference in my life. Working along side them
in planning the annual golf tournaments over the past 5 years has
really shown me what a need our youth and community has for a
foundation like this! I have seen thousands of people come together
all because of their love for Dallas to help support other teens
that they might never even meet but still be part of changing and
maybe even saving their lives. Dallas was like so many other kids
are today. Just a normal teenager trying to make it. He had such a
love and a zest for life! He has made such an impression on my life
and I'm so excited to see how, through The Dallas Pugh Foundation,
he continues to change the world and touch people's hearts.
Therese Loth, Aunt My name is Theresa Loth and I am married to one of
Dallas' most awesome uncles - Uncle Pete. I didn't know Dallas, but
I know how my husband still gets emotional whenever his name is
brought up. I love Peter's family and know I missed out by not
knowing Dallas. One thing I didn't realize when I was on a path of
suicide, was how much it affects other people. I had an eating
disorder for 6 years and I was at the end of myself. I was
especially berating myself one day because I love the Lord and one
of his children shouldn't feel like this let alone do the things I
was doing. I was out on one of my many runs and literally God kept
my feet on the road. I was never brave enough to follow through with
suicide but a quick impulse acted on in heavy traffic was quite
feasible. That day God kept my feet on the side of the road but I
know people are God's hands. And that is how I feel about this
organization Ñ they are God's hands and voice and shoulders to cry
on. If someone had just told me that I had another option, or that
other people felt like I did, or it was okay to feel this rotten and
it wouldn't last forever Ñ if I knew that something like this
foundation was available to me; I wouldn't have come so close to the
edge. That's what happened to Dallas Ñ he just got a little too
close to the edge. I look forward to the day I can meet him in
person. May God Bless You All.
Eric Peterson, Friend I have been
very close to the entire Pugh family and anyone that knows them has
a deep love for them. Jarrett (Dallas' older brother) and I have
been inseparable friends since the age of 5. I had the pleasure of
watching Dallas grow from a fearless child to a stand up young man
and was looking forward to seeing him as an older man some day. That
has been taken away from me, and from thousands of others that will
never be able to enjoy Dallas' company again. All of this pain
because of one extremely horrible decision that will never be
forgotten by anyone that ever had the absolute pleasure of knowing
Dallas. I have participated in all of the previous golf tournaments
and will continue to do all I can to help in this great cause. If it
only saves one life, that will effect thousands, so if this charity
can help thousands millions will be positively effected.
Jennifer Stinebaugh, Friend I was fortunate enough to meet Dallas Pugh. I
just started working for his mom, Ruth, just prior to Dallas's
passing. He was an energetic teenager with an awesome attitude.
Everyone loved him. How very lucky I was to get the chance to meet
him. Now it has been 11 years since Dallas passed away. In a round
about way his passing has changed my life for the good. RuthÕs
ambition and determination to turn this tragedy into a positive
helped me look at life in a whole new way. With Ruth by my side, I
became successful in my career, married the love of my life, own a
beautiful home, have a wonderful relationship with both family and
friends, and just recently added the joy of my life, Kamryn
Elizabeth, to my family. Ruth gave me the support and encouragement
I needed to make the right decisions to go down the correct path. I
have also been involved with the Dallas Pugh Memorial Golf
Tournament every year and see the changes this tournament has made.
It is a wonderful fundraiser that brings the community together for
a great cause. It is a day to remember and I look forward to this
year's tournament. I know that the Pugh Family will make this the
most memorable one yet.
Don Daley, Friend I have been best friends
with Jarrett Pugh since we met in kindergarten over 25 years ago. No
matter what, Jarrett and I have continued our friendship through
happy and sad times. My fond memories of Dallas have been coupled
along with Jarrett. Dallas was always a sweet kid, with a positive,
light-hearted energy. From all of the times we spent riding our dirt
bikes on our family's ranches, to building things in our Dad's
garage, Dallas was always there and never skipped a beat. I myself
have been affiliated with the YMCA for many years now and know what
a difference it makes in people's lives. The Dallas Pugh Foundation
in support of the YMCA can only make it better by helping the youth
and consoling them through their problematic times.
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